Comments on: When normal child sexual development becomes abnormal http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/ Peer supervision and job recommendation for the human services Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:19:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Megan http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/comment-page-1/#comment-1554 Megan Sat, 03 May 2008 21:26:59 +0000 http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/#comment-1554 Nunyaa welcome and thanks so much for your comment. You are right, sometimes disclosures fall on deaf ears - not just the government's ears either, but the ears of protective people around the child. It makes me wild that we cannot listen to and believe our kids. If someone had listened to you as a child you probably wouldn't be walking around with as much inner turmoil. Nunyaa I have no idea who you are (I've worked with so many people over the years), and that is okay, you do not need to identify yourself to me, but I do want to apologise to you on behalf of a population that let you down as a child and then possibly again as an adult. There are people that believe, that care and that honestly want all child harm to stop. I wish I could take your pain away but I cannot not. I can however thank you profusely for putting your pain to the side for the sake of keeping other people's kids safe. Take care and stay safe Nunyaa Nunyaa welcome and thanks so much for your comment. You are right, sometimes disclosures fall on deaf ears – not just the government’s ears either, but the ears of protective people around the child.

It makes me wild that we cannot listen to and believe our kids. If someone had listened to you as a child you probably wouldn’t be walking around with as much inner turmoil.

Nunyaa I have no idea who you are (I’ve worked with so many people over the years), and that is okay, you do not need to identify yourself to me, but I do want to apologise to you on behalf of a population that let you down as a child and then possibly again as an adult. There are people that believe, that care and that honestly want all child harm to stop.

I wish I could take your pain away but I cannot not. I can however thank you profusely for putting your pain to the side for the sake of keeping other people’s kids safe.

Take care and stay safe Nunyaa

]]> By: nunyaa http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/comment-page-1/#comment-1553 nunyaa Sat, 03 May 2008 12:49:32 +0000 http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/#comment-1553 Quite often when concerns are made, it falls on deaf ears and a worse situation evolves. Been there as a child myself and seen a female child close to me go through something similar at hands of the same person yet this man walks free to this day and will never be punished for what he done. I do know something innocent can be made to look sinister BUT we all know there is a line that does not get crossed with our children. Megan, you do know me, you was the first person to finally listen and hear my story . Child abuse victims never forget. To this day I struggle with inner turmoil and I will be dammed if another child goes through the same. We must have measures in place that are effective , all talk and no action fails the children. Quite often when concerns are made, it falls on deaf ears and a worse situation evolves. Been there as a child myself and seen a female child close to me go through something similar at hands of the same person yet this man walks free to this day and will never be punished for what he done.
I do know something innocent can be made to look sinister BUT we all know there is a line that does not get crossed with our children.
Megan, you do know me, you was the first person to finally listen and hear my story .
Child abuse victims never forget. To this day I struggle with inner turmoil and I will be dammed if another child goes through the same. We must have measures in place that are effective , all talk and no action fails the children.

]]> By: Megan http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/comment-page-1/#comment-1551 Megan Fri, 02 May 2008 22:44:17 +0000 http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/#comment-1551 Hey Tamara, I am so glad you've commented on this issue because you have a lot to offer. Part of the difficulty with some of the current cases in Cairns is that the kids are 5 yrs old. That is the age where some innocent sex and gender curiosity does occur...but with violence and sneakiness, no, it is no longer age appropriate development. As you point out, it's a hard one - if that is all those kids know, should they be punished...but then how do they learn what is acceptable and not acceptable. Where do we intervene in the vicious circle. Yep, knock the adult perps down from their safe perch and lets start protective behaviours with all kids from a very early age. If only we placed as much resource importance on non statutory child protection and emotional intelligence as we do on funding wars!!!!! Thanks for your views T. Hey Tamara, I am so glad you’ve commented on this issue because you have a lot to offer.
Part of the difficulty with some of the current cases in Cairns is that the kids are 5 yrs old. That is the age where some innocent sex and gender curiosity does occur…but with violence and sneakiness, no, it is no longer age appropriate development.
As you point out, it’s a hard one – if that is all those kids know, should they be punished…but then how do they learn what is acceptable and not acceptable. Where do we intervene in the vicious circle.
Yep, knock the adult perps down from their safe perch and lets start protective behaviours with all kids from a very early age. If only we placed as much resource importance on non statutory child protection and emotional intelligence as we do on funding wars!!!!!
Thanks for your views T.

]]> By: Tamara Wilson http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/comment-page-1/#comment-1548 Tamara Wilson Fri, 02 May 2008 16:01:18 +0000 http://www.imaginif.com.au/when-normal-child-sexual-development-becomes-abnormal/#comment-1548 I have to say I agree. Its hard to punish these kids when this is what they know as a 'normal' so they are acting to what they honestly and truly believe is the way life is suppose to be and until we start going to the top of the abuse latter and knocking down those at the top then work our way down and healing those closer to the bottom. and reteaching them then things may begin to look up. Should they go unpunished completely I don't know. I mean if they don't know its wrong they are not able to make the choice to do it or not. I think getting that child out of their home and somewhere safe then start helping them heal and helping them understand what they have been experiencing is wrong is possibly the way to go. However I do understand with limited resources it may not be possible. I have to say I agree. Its hard to punish these kids when this is what they know as a ‘normal’ so they are acting to what they honestly and truly believe is the way life is suppose to be and until we start going to the top of the abuse latter and knocking down those at the top then work our way down and healing those closer to the bottom. and reteaching them then things may begin to look up. Should they go unpunished completely I don’t know. I mean if they don’t know its wrong they are not able to make the choice to do it or not. I think getting that child out of their home and somewhere safe then start helping them heal and helping them understand what they have been experiencing is wrong is possibly the way to go. However I do understand with limited resources it may not be possible.

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