Emotional Guidance Scale
March 14, 2010 by Megan · Leave a Comment
Twelve months ago I posted mainly around self development. Nowadays I am posting on supervision and assuming a degree of self and professional development. However, it is most helpful to revisit strategies that have previously assisted. Here’s one of the most helpful self development reminders I have used:
Emotional Guidance
It is possible to change your emotional set point and to position yourself for quicker and positive life change. My years as a therapist support that many people do not have alternative feelings to reach toward though. Not only do some people have a constipated emotional vocabulary they also have no previous experience of positive feeling and have no idea where they fall on a scale of emotional guidance.
Are you intimate with your feelings? Where are you on the scale of emotional intelligence and guidance?
- Joy, knowledge, empowerment, freedom, love, appreciation
- Passion
- Enthusiasm, eagerness, happiness
- Positive expectation, belief
- Optimism
- Hopefulness
- Contentment
- Boredom
- Pessimism
- Frustration, irritation, impatience
- Overwhelment
- Disappointment
- Doubt
- Worry
- Blame
- Discouragement
- Anger
- Revenge
- Hatred, rage
- Jealousy
- Insecurity, guilt, unworthiness
- Fear, grief, depression, despair, powerlessness.
While these labels are merely words, it is the feelings associated with the words on the higher end of the scale that have the ability to change our lives for the better. When you consciously reach for a higher feeling, your immediate state of feeling is improved.
Having a sample of happy memories to recall helps to move the focus away when you become aware of a lower scale feeling. If you are feeling angry for example, consciously think of a time when….[insert own positive thought...]
Are you happy to stay as a bottom scale feeder or are you rising to the top of the world?
Want to learn more about feelings? Here’s two FREE resources for you:
Emotional Guidance Scale from: E & J Hicks, 2008. Manifest your desires. Hay House:Sydney
Fashion for brainy people
March 13, 2010 by Megan · Leave a Comment
Brainy people by Lusi at Stock Exchange.
How many people are picky about what they think?
Consistent research supports that thinking positively and living an hedonistic life (focusing on what brings you pleasure) is the quickest way to good health, mental stability, peaceful solutions and, yes, wealth.
Today I am carefully choosing what to dress my brain up in. I am thinking thoughts of wealth, health, longevity and peace.
What’s your brain wearing?
Feed your professional soul
February 24, 2010 by Megan · Leave a Comment
The Two Wolves
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all..
One is Evil.
It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret , greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good.
It is joy, peace , love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.
The grandson thought about it for a minute… And then asked his grandfather: ’Which wolf wins?’
The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed .’
Peer Supervision is a good feed. Have you yet registered to feed your professional soul yet?
I am feeding my professional soul a little dessert in July by going to Papua New Guinea. The Kokoda trip is off because of insufficient numbers of people wanting to self torture, BUT, the work at an orphanage in Port Moresby is still on. Five days: we present workshops, help with teaching parenting skills for the under 5’s and do what ever is most needed.
Hungry? Contact Megan Bayliss for further information.
Social Justice Tour 2010: walk the Kokoda Trail
Early expressions of interests are called from socially minded people willing to walk the Kokoda Track. The tour aim is to assist PNG Villagers along the track with their chosen community development projects AND experience social service at an International level.
Imagine 8 nights (no dates yet booked) spent in the jungle where our armed forces and the Fuzzy Wuzzy Angels (National Papuans) held back the Japanese and stopped armed combat coming to Australia. Our eternal thanks go to the National people of Papua New Guinea who supported, protected and fed our service personnel.
Papua New Guinea is the country of my birth and happily spent childhood. My commitment to her people is solid and I invite you to develop some international community development experience by becoming involved in a social justice trek along one of the most famous and geographically fascinating trails of World War II.
For a very low AU$2750.00 (minimum 8 people) this specially designed social justice tour of 97 kilometres includes:
- Airfare Cairns – Port Moresby – Cairns
- Airfare Kokoda – Port Moresby
- Accommodation for 8 nights on track’s various locations in village’s huts, tents, bush camps or guesthouses
- Transport from Port Moresby to Owers Corner via Bomana War Cemetery
- Breakfasts & dinners during the track (exclude some fresh fruits & veggies supplied by villagers) plus cooked evening meal & breakfast at David Soro guesthouse at Kokoda
- Cooking equipment (“Dixie”) – if required
- 1 or 2 persons tent, Porter’s Backpacks
- Experienced local tour guide
- Porters for group’s camping and cooking equipment (personal porter optional)
- Airport and flights taxes
- Kokoda Trail trek permit fee
- Two way radio and a satellites phone
Optional extras:
- personal porter- (please advise about it in booking form and add AU$500.00 to above price)
- visits to War Museums along the track
- trek snacks
- walking stick. can be provided for $25 each & head torches for $15 each.
Five hundred Kina (local currency) from each paid trip goes directly to villages on the Trail and develops resources dictated by local need. Currently, running water (pumps. pipes, taps, etc) are the chosen community development need and your paid trek leaves behind a footprint in a shower. In addition to this, the social justice tour will also contribute a group gift. The group gift is decided once expressions of interest are logged. The group gift may take the form of fund raised cash, blankets, books, clothes, what ever the group decides upon in consultation with local village elders.
The Social Justice tour is organised by Megan Bayliss (BSW, Dip SOC, MAASW) and the tour is led by an old friend of mine, Merv Hains of Kokoda Track Experience. The trek is for fit people of any age. I am not fit but as of today, I am in training 
Do good. Do Kokoda.
Express your interest by contacting Megan Bayliss or by leaving a comment below.
How to make yourself feel better at any given moment
November 15, 2009 by Megan · Leave a Comment
Want to know how to change from feeling CRAP to feeling great? With practice it’s easy.
- Get emotionally intelligent. Get to know the feelings words that describe how you feel. If you always say you feel crap what does that really mean. Does it mean you feel like a big brown soppy dog turd on the footpath or does it mean you are feeling really down, like crying, lacking motivation and thinking bad thoughts all the time? Here’s some more reading about getting emotionally intelligent. If you’re really serious about change, then try this short article too: Emotional Intelligence 101.
- Practice, practice, practice, using clear communication to firstly identify your feeling, secondly give your feeling a proper feeling name (crap isn’t a proper feeling, actually, it’s a piece of excrement….yuk….I don’t want to feel like crap!) and thirdly verbalise exactly how you are feeling. There are degrees of feeling and it is the emotionally intelligent person who understands those degrees. Even crap comes with degrees: runny crap, hard crap, wormy crap, smelly crap – if you are smart then you’ll describe exactly what sort of crap you feel like! Here’s some more reading about using clear communication to express how you really feel.
- Possibly the most important step in moving from crap to helpful manure that encourages growth and big fat blooms is to
purposely move yourself up the emotional scale whenever you recognise that you are feeling more lowly than you need to.
Yes, it is possible to change your emotional set point and to make yourself feel better in any moment. Here’s the scale of emotional guidance (you’re aiming for being in number one spot):
- Joy, knowledge, empowerment, freedom, love, appreciation
- Passion
- Enthusiasm, eagerness, happiness
- Positive expectation, belief
- Optimism
- Hopefulness
- Contentment
- Boredom
- Pessimism
- Frustration, irritation, impatience
- Overwhelment
- Disappointment
- Doubt
- Worry
- Blame
- Discouragement
- Anger
- Revenge
- Hatred, rage
- Jealousy
- Insecurity, guilt, unworthiness
- Fear, grief, depression, despair, powerlessness.
While these labels are merely words, it is the feelings associated with the words on the higher end of the scale that have the ability to change our lives for the better. When you consciously reach for a higher feeling, your immediate state of feeling is improved.
Having a sample of happy memories to recall helps to move the focus away when you become aware of a lower scale feeling. If you are feeling angry for example, consciously think of a time when….[insert own positive thought...]
Are you happy to stay at the bottom of the emotional intelligence class? I didn’t think so. Here’s what you’ve got to do:
Step 1: Get emotionally intelligent
Step 2: Use clear communication – I feel….when you…..because…..
Step 3: Move yourself up the emotional scale whenever you recognise that you are feeling more lowly than you need to.
Want to learn more about feelings? Here’s two FREE resources for you:
Emotional Guidance Scale from: E & J Hicks, 2008. Manifest your desires. Hay House:Sydney
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