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How much do you love your children?

December 22, 2008 by Megan · 8 Comments 

White Delicate (rose) by biewoef at sxc photo exchangeI was walking around in a Target store, when I saw a Cashier hand this little boy some money back. The boy couldn’t have been more than 5 or 6 years old.

The Cashier said, ‘I’m sorry, but you don’t have enough money to buy this doll.’

Then the little boy turned to the old woman next to him: ”Granny, are you sure I don’t have enough money?”

The old lady replied: ”You know that you don’t have enough money to buy this doll, my dear.”

Then she asked him to stay there for just 5 minutes while she went to look a round. She left quickly. The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand. Finally, I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give this doll to.

‘It’s the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much for Christmas. She was sure that Santa Claus would bring it to her.’

I replied to him that maybe Santa Claus would bring it to her after all, and not to worry.

But he replied to me sadly. ‘No, Santa Claus can’t bring it to her where she is now. I have to give the doll to my Mommy so that she can give it to my sister when she goes there.’

His eyes were so sad while saying this. ‘My Sister has gone to be with God. Daddy says that Mommy is going to see God very soon too, so I thought that she could take the doll with her to give it to my sister.”

My heart nearly stopped.

The little boy looked up at me and said: ‘I told daddy to tell Mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until I come back from the mall.’

Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he was laughing. He then told me ‘I want Mommy to take my picture with her so she won’t forget me.’

‘I love my mommy and I wish she doesn’t have to leave me, but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister.’

Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly.

I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. ‘Suppose we check again, just in case you do have enough money for the doll?”

‘OK’ he said, ‘I hope I do have enough.’ I added some of my money to his with out him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for the doll and even some spare money.

The little boy said: ‘Thank you God for giving me enough money!’

Then he looked at me and added, ‘I asked last night before I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll, so that Mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me!”

‘I also wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my Mommy, but I didn’t dare to ask God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and a white rose.”

‘My mommy loves white roses.’

A few minutes later, the old lady returned and I left with my basket. I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started. I couldn’t get the little boy out of my mind.

Then I remembered a local news paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl.

The little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the life-sustaining machine, because the young woman would not be able to recover from the coma.

Was this the family of the little boy?

Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the news paper that the young woman had passed away.

I couldn’t stop myself as I bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home where the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make last wishes before her burial.

She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest.

I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life had been changed for ever.. The love that the little boy had for his mother and his sister is still, to this day, hard to imagine.

And in a fraction of a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away from him.

Will you think again before you drink drive??????

(Story came to me on email and touched me deeply enough to post about drink driving. I dedicate this post to my good friend, A, from Three Times Kewl and who lost her husband to a drink driver.)

If a terrorist killed our loved ones we may be motivated to end terrorism and ensure peace. But, when a drink driver kills a loved one, nothing much changes. Drink driving continues and more people become tragically affected by the effects of a legal drug.

We fail to recognize public drinking as a potential risk to our families and stop the person from getting into a car. Often comments passed make note of hoping the idiot gets booked by the police and loses their license. But, in my mind, drink driving is an act of domestic terrorism, just as child abuse is.

Please, this Christmas don’t be a bloody idiot. If you drink and drive then you are a domestic terrorist and are never to be trusted. Drink drivers rate in my mind as child abusers do: family busters. How much do you love your children? I love mine, and yours, enough to ensure that nobody self drives away from my home after drinking excessive alcohol. Child protection is keeping drink drivers off the road.

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8 Responses to “How much do you love your children?”
  1. Rhonda says:

    What a great reminder to not drink and drive! Thank you for sharing it.

  2. recel says:

    i must say, this post has left me crying and gave me goosebumps. truly moving and i am deeply touched. thanks for sharing. may this be a lesson to everyone who drives.

  3. Trish says:

    yes thank you Megan for this timely message. Well said.

  4. tjw says:

    I was sent this link earlier tonight. Agreed, it’s a very touching story. I hope it does help serve as a reminder to at least somebody out there of how much responsibility one really has when operating motor vehicles.

    Honestly though? I can’t say “drink driving” (or “drunk driving” as we call it here in the United States) equates to terrorism. People who drink and drive don’t do so with intentions of causing harm to others. They simply make a judgement call that they’re able to safely get in a car or truck and drive, and sometimes they’re wrong.

    We always hear about the “worst cases”, where it leads to a horrible accident and death(s), but nobody writes news or blogs about the people who had a few drinks, decided they could still get home safely, and were in fact correct.

    The wise thing to do, obviously, is not to take chances. Don’t drive if you’ve been drinking. (But at times, that’s like saying “If you don’t want to risk an unwanted pregnancy, simply don’t have sex!” True statement, but it’s just not going to be the choice everyone opts for in every situation.)

  5. gemma says:

    oh that poor little boy, I had tears in my eyes when he said it was for his sister so you can imagine the teary mess I am right now, I think if they used stories like this to advertise the devastation of drunk driving then I think maybe it might do a bit more good than the shock type adverts.
    Sometimes its bad if you have drunk passengers too I had a friend who was driving some drunk friends, the driver was sober but the guy in the passenger seat thought it would be funny to try and grab the wheel. They ended up in a tree and the drunk passenger is now in a wheelchair, no one else was hurt.

  6. Andrew says:

    Well said Megan; probably in Queensland it’s a good time to remind people about the dangers of drinking and driving a boat as well.

    I think last year in South East Queensland (Bribie Island) there was a little girl killed in an accident where it was found that the driver of a boat pulling the tube she was riding in was drunk when it hit a beacon or similar.

    The facts are that the effects of the sun, wind and motion of a boat can have a more potent effect on the skipper, as per motor vehicles, the BAC limit in a boat is .05. For more information on boating BAC limits, see the Maritime Safety QLD article here at http://www.msq.qld.gov.au/Home/Safety/Alcohol_rules/. It’s important to note that skippers are responsible for their passengers consumption of alcohol as well.

    I personally choose to not drink while I drive a boat for this reason, even when I am on a solo trip. You can have a beer (or three) when you get home while cleaning down the boat and you cannot endanger anyone else.

  7. Ian Peatey says:

    Megan. Very moving post (no idea if it’s a true story or not .. but no less touching for that). The whole point of drinking, for many people, is that it reduces control over actions, frees us from some inhibitions and helps us relax. Clearly this does not go well with activities that require us to be in control and paying attention, such as driving . I have no idea why some people still try to combine the two .. apart from pure selfishness, arrogance or ignorance.

    Greta reminder at this time of year! Ian

  8. Michelle says:

    This is a glurge- made up most likely from an old song. check out Snopes.com

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