How to be rid of confusion and negativity

You awake and begin to immediately think: your thoughts go round and round and spin off to even further thoughts. Negative, hatred and vile; the thoughts do not fit with your preferred way of staying positive. Damn! You failed! Or have you?

Positive people stay positive because they have developed the tools needed to push the negativity away. Positive people use “clearers” when they catch themselves being drawn to the dark side of negativity. They clear a path for the positive thoughts to come back.

Clearers are little exercises that chase away the negativity and pull you back onto the track of remaining positive. I use clearers, often. Where once I might have moaned that i failed, I instead recognise my negative thoughts as an opportunity to practice my clearers, See, it’s all in the re-frame and remembering to pull the right tools from your emotional intelligence toolbox.

Joe Vitale (teacher from The Secret and marketing guru extraordinaire) sets out 10 clearing methods in his latest book: The Key: The missing secret for attracting anything you want (2008, John Wiley & Sons). Just as we all have different sized screwdrivers in our tool box, so too can we have different clearers. One method will resonate with person A, while another method will resonate with person B. Similarly, little negative thoughts may be cleared by using a simple clearer, whereas big and overwhelming negative thoughts may be cleared by pulling out a heavier, more analytical clearer.

Recently I facilitated a self development group on using a clearer I regularly use (compliments of Joe Vitale’s book, The Key): I love you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you (clearing method number 5). The underling premise of this clearer is that when we react to things we don’t like, we are coming from a place of memory rather than inspired though. By saying the above four phrase mantra, we clear the memory and allow ourselves to be presently conscious and open to making inspired choices. I find this enormously helpful when I am dealing with people who I have old hate tapes running in my head.

This morning I awoke angry and wanted to yell at my husband (for no reason mind you…I just figured it was an okay thing to do). I tried my preferred clearer. It didn’t work. I felt angrier. I could have just yelled…I know I would have felt sooooo much better but instead I kept using the clearers in my emotional tool box until I found one that worked for me: Option Method Dialogue (clearing method  number 2 in The Key)

What are you unhappy about?

Why are you unhappy about that?

What are you concerned would happen if you were not unhappy about that?

Do you believe that?

Why do you believe that?

What are your concerned would happen if you did not believe that?

If you want to be rid of confusion and negativity, pull out the right clearer and use it. But, to pull it out, you first need to have some in your bag of tricks. Head to a bookshop and pick up Joe Vitale’s, The Key.

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Another option is to buy the study at home, Liberty League, course that changed my life: Beyond Freedom. The best I have ever done, I thoroughly recommend it to those who are serious about change and driven to improving their life and financial situation.