Let’s Spread the Word!!!….
Calling out to all bloggers and parents:
In conjunction with America’s National Internet Safety Month, iSafe, a leading online safety organization (which I highly recommend to educators and which I personally use), is asking for our help, to raise Internet Safety awareness.
Let’s start an online safety campaign. If you have a blog, please post the blue ribbon on your website. If you are a business owner, please display the poster in your business. For those of you who do not live in the USA, Internet Safety has NO boundaries!!! Please help, no matter where you live.
As is mentioned frequently on this website and while educating others, we must ALL work TOGETHER in order to keep our children safer online!!
Thanks!
The Power of Picture Books
June 23, 2007 by Lisa · 2 Comments

Article by: Sunshine Girl On A Rainy Day
As a former foster child, youth advocate and Children’s Librarian, I am reminded almost daily of the power of children’s literature.
Picture Books have the power to positively impact parenting, promote literacy, increase emotional vocabulary and teach caregivers the value of positive reinforcement.
Well-written Picture Books can equip individuals to cope with their daily lives. They can assist children in making sense of loss and/or displacement. They can teach coping mechanisms for dealing with bullies.
Here are some of the most powerful and life-changing Picture Books that I have come across lately. I encourage you to take advantage of their insights. These books are available for purchase at the UK version of amazon.com
Burningham, John.
Edwardo: The Horriblest Boy in the Whole Wide World.
Red Fox, 2007. ISBN: 0099480131
Edwardo starts out as a perfectly normal boy. Sometimes messy, sometimes noisy and once in a while he drops things. Most boys his age behave the same way. But the adults in this child’s life begin to shower him with criticism. They tell Edwardo that he is noisiest, nastiest, dirtiest boy in the world.
Not surprisingly, the more negative reinforcement Edwardo received from his caregivers, the worse his behavior becomes. It is only when the adults in his life take time to consider Edwardo’s strengths and look for opportunities to praise him that his life begins to head back in a more positive direction.
This book is an important reminder to parents, teachers and caregivers to consider the impact of hastily chosen words. It can be shared in parenting classes geared toward preventing child abuse and promoting positive reinforcement of children.
Coffelt, Nancy. Fred Stays With Me.
Little, Brown, 2007. ISBN: 0316882690
A little girl whose parents are divorced insists that her dog, Fred, accompanies her from one parent’s house to the other. Her dog’s presence provides her with a sense of continuity and stability, as she bounces back and forth between two homes.
A friend of mine, who teaches parenting classes for divorcing parents, wishes that every judge in family law and every attorney who practices family law had a copy of this book in their waiting rooms.
Jossee, Barbara. Nikolai, the Only Bear.
Philomel, 2005. ISBN: 0399238840
Nikolai the bear feels different from the other orphans. Staff members at the orphanage don’t speak his language. His games are perceived as too wild and rough. The adults around him seem unable to communicate with him or understand his motivations.
But from the moment that his adoptive parents appear, they make every effort to connect with him. When he growls, they growl back. When Nikolai claws the air, his adoptive mother reflects that gesture back to him.
His adoptive parents come from another country and speak a different language. But they are willing to learn to communicate with him. They are not afraid to take his hand (or paw) in theirs, and to express pride and joy in his accomplishments. Because of their acceptance and approachability, Nikolai begins to trust them.
This book is an excellent resource for young children on international adoption. I hope that someday a book will be written for foster children to address their needs in such a readable format and in such an emotionally perceptive way.
Kasza, Keiko. A Mother for Choco.
Putnam, 1996. ISBN: 0698113640
A motherless bird seeks a place to belong… After a series of other animals draw attention only to their physical differences, Mrs. Bear appears and demonstrates what mother-love looks like at its finest. She takes Choco into her loving home and introduces him to his new (foster/adopted) siblings.
Lovell, Patty. Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon.
Putnam, 2006. ISBN: 0399246819
This book does a wonderful job in connecting with the day-to-day, real-life experience of childhood. It starts out with: “Molly Lou stood just taller than her dog and was the shortest girl in first grade.”
Children can relate to feeling small, changing schools and facing bullies. Whenever I read this story aloud to children in Kindergarten through second grade, they feel more empowered to face bullies — and they fall in love with Molly’s grandmother for giving Molly such a secure base and great advice.
This book can be used creatively in the social work realm as well: Since Molly’s parents are absent, and her best advice comes from her grandmother, this book is especially approachable for children in kinship care. When Molly moves away from everyone and everything she has ever known, this experience will also resonate with children in foster care.
O’Neill, Alexis. Recess Queen.
Spoken Arts, 2002. ISBN: 0804569177
Mean Jean the Recess Queen rules the playground. Nobody bounces until Mean Jean bounces. Nobody kicks until Mean Jean kicks.
Change comes only when newcomer Katie Sue offers Mean Jean something that she has never had before — a friend.
This book captures with humor and accuracy the motivations driving a school bully, and offers a great introduction to conflict resolution for children in primary school.
Prigger, Mary Skillings. Aunt Minnie McGranahan.
Clarion, 2005. ISBN: 061860488X
A story of successful relative placement, based upon a true story in the author’s family history. Aunt Minnie’s solitary and somewhat regimented life is interrupted by the arrival of her nine nieces and nephews. These orphans need a place to live, and their problem-solving aunt is determined to provide it for them.
While the townspeople shake their heads and predict disaster, Aunt Minnie comes up with a brilliant new system: “The oldest looked after the youngest, the ones in the middle looked after each other, and Aunt Minnie looked after them all.”
Weninger, Brigitte. A Child Is a Child.
Minedition, 2004. ISBN: 0698400062
When two young frogs are abandoned by their parents, all the other animals agree that this is truly a sad and terrible thing.
Blackbird can’t take them because “frogs can’t live in a bird’s nest.” Mole doesn’t think his molehill will be a good home either. Hedgehog points out that he is always on the move.
Meanwhile, Mama Mouse meets the frogs and decides to take them in. The other animals initially try to discourage her saying, “Frogs need completely different things than we do.”
But Mama Mouse replies, “That’s ridiculous. A child is a child.” She and her children welcome the frogs into her family, and encourage the other animals to help out in providing for them.
My friends who have adopted or fostered children have told me various stories about the level of support and approval that they have received from friends and family. This book is a nice tool to either educate the friends, or just bolster up your own sense that, yes, you are doing the right thing.
Zolotow, Charlotte. A Father Like That.
HarperCollins, 2007. ISBN: 0060278641
Young children growing up in single-parent families often struggle to verbalize their feelings of loss. In this book, a boy growing up without a father lists the activities that he wishes his absent father would share with him. He decides that when he is older, he will be the type of father that he never had.

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International Pedophile Ring, BUSTED!
31 children and babies, the youngest being 2 months old, were repeatedly abused live online, have now been rescued from homes in the UK, Canada and Australia, following the biggest international online pedophile ring investigation.
7 Canadian children, some as young as 2 years old, were among those rescued by authorities. The rescued Canadian children range in age from 2 to 9. Some had already been exploited online, in some cases having sex with adults online. One Australian child “at risk”, was also rescued.
Timothy David Martyn Cox, 27, a single man who lived at home in England with his parents, ran the pedophile operation from his bedroom. Cox used the name “Son of God”, and ran the “Kids the Light of Our Lives” chatroom, where pedophiles shared live images of children being abused. The alleged British “godfather” of the pedophile ring was arrested and jailed in September 2006.
Gordon McIntosh,33, allegedly took over running the chatroom after Cox’s arrest in September, and is awaiting sentencing later this month after pleading guilty to 27 charges. Police said among 392 indecent film files in McIntosh’s possession were videos of infants being raped.
Last August, Toronto police identified a Briton as the new chatroom host and tipped off British investigators, who began an undercover operation with cooperation from Canada, America and Australia. They identified Cox and moved to arrest him at his home in September last year while he was online.
After Cox’s arrest, the officers spent 10 days “chatting” with hundreds of pedophiles from across the world, posing as Cox, to gather evidence. Detectives found more than 75,000 indecent and explicit images on the computer in Cox’s bedroom and evidence that he had supplied over 11,000 images to chatroom members.
Detective Sergeant Carl Fisher, of Suffolk police, said: “Cox showed no remorse when he was arrested. Our officers spent three months viewing the images and categorising them and they were the worst things we have ever seen.”
Britain’s Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre worked for 10 months with police from 35 other countries, including Australia, the United States, and Canada, to id and rescue the children, who were being abused and filmed live.
More than 700 suspects, worldwide, are being investigated.
Australian authorities arrested 4 men and more arrests are expected. Another 24 suspects are from Canada, according to Toronto Police. Police say a total of 12 arrests were made in Ontario and the rest were made in other provinces. Additional arrests in Canada may be forthcoming as well.
Unlike many paedophile rings online, the abuse was carried out in real time and placed live online
Support I virtually could not do without: It’s all about meme bitss
June 20, 2007 by Megan Bayliss · 2 Comments
Are you one of my five virtual supports? You sure are if you appear on the below list and therefore, youyou have been tagged by meme.
The It’s all about Meme Bitss, is a bloggers meme: an idea game that mutates as it travels throughout the intenet. Each bloggers list will be different – mutated from the list that linked to them.
This is the origin story of the It’s all about Meme Bitss support game. It needs to be linked to each new list of five support networks so that everyone understands the importance and relevance of our online supports.

This particular meme helps to keep people safe because it clearly states who your five virtual support people are – people you will tell if anything bad happens: people you will warn if someone is scamming, spamming or working against safe internet etiquette. I hope you choose to protective play it.
My five virtual supports are:
All for Women: Forums and blogs, All for Women is one of those places that scream safety for women and children. I have had a few email chats with the founder of All for Women and she is someone who I will continue to invest my time in. Why? Because she cares about helping to keep others safe.
Internet Safety for our Children’s Sake: Jace is just the bees knees. She freely gives of her own time to keep us all informed of how to keep kids safe on the internet. Not surprisingly, Jace’s site is currently in first place for Best Educational Blog in the Bloggers Choice Award. A worthy first place winner the site will be too. Best of luck with it Jace.
Ragamuffin Studies: Musings of a Jewish Homeschooling Mom, Graduate Student, and Gadfly. I just love Elisheva. Our conversations stimulate me and she is someone I would trust beyond a doubt. Thank you Elisheva, for everything you have bought into my virtual life.
Sunshine Girl on a Rainy Day: A foster care advocate and amazing women who accounts on the safety of children under the care of the state. Lisa is a writer at Imaginif and I am proud to count her as one of my online supports.
Megin Hatch from GNMParents: I am a regular reader of Megin’s blogs and of GNMParents. Their sharing of the parenting highs and lows, rewards and liabilities is realistic, non judgemental and inclusive. Nominated as Best Parenting Blog, I had no difficulty adding my vote because GNMParents is child and safety focused. They are a place I would go to to share information about a person who was a danger on the internet.
Tag. You are it women. It’s now up to you to spread your support magic to your own list of five virtual supports. It’s okay to include supports from this list too, but you need to have at least one virtual support that is not on this list.
Guidelines for safe participation can be found here. They must be passed on in the meme your raise.
Stay safe and thanks for being part of my online safety support network.
It’s all about Meme Bitss
June 20, 2007 by Megan Bayliss · Leave a Comment
Five is an important number to the BITSS model of Protective Behaviours. Not only are there five bitss to remember to keep kids safe but five is the number of support people we all need to keep us connected, functional and accountable.
Hands, feet and fans are symbols educators use with children to help them to remember five people they can go to: to talk to about anything on the child’s mind. When I am assessing families for risk of harm to children, I look for at least five other external people that the family is securely connected to.
The children who are most at risk of abuse are those who have no support networks – those who do not have a range of trusted adults they can talk to. Whereas once we lived in extended family groups, often surrounded by grandparents and aunts and uncles, nowadays we tend to be isolated from our family, friends, and other emotional supports. We tend to live busy lives with little time for just chatting with our children or friends. Instead, we often find virtual friends on the internet. These virtual friends can be vitally important.
Support networks are important for all of us: yes, even virtual supports. Predators zero in on children without supports. Worse still, predators will groom a child’s supports and trick them into believing that the child is lying about, say, sexual abuse or cyber bullying. They isolate us from our supports in case we raise suspicions or hear other’s suspicions. The best way to counteract this is to remain in contact with our friends, to talk, to listen, to share and to believe. If we do this as adults, we are modeling good relationships to our children, teaching them it’s okay to talk to others we consider safe and to have lives outside the family home.
It’s all about Meme Bitss is an active encourager of naming your five major virtual supports. It’s a way to keep you safer online. These supports may be blog authors, forums, message boards, etc.
It’s all about Meme Bitss guidelines:
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1) Write a new post. Within it, link to this article so that all can see the importance of support networks and get these guidelines for the It’s all about Meme Bitss.
2) List and link to your five most important virtual supports. At least one support must be different to the support list supplied by the person who has tagged you as one of their supports.
3) Leave a comment for (or email) your virtual supports so that they know they’ve been tagged with the It’s all about Meme Bitss and so they can keep the support happening throughout the virtual ether of modern day supports.
4) Spend some time reflecting upon the physical supports that you and your children have. If something bad happened in your life, who is there to physically help you? Is there something you can do today to increase your physical support network? Do your virtual supports know you well enough to offer meaningful words of support? What can you do to ensure that you create a virtual relationship that remains safe but also creates a reliable and meaningful support for you and your family?
Stay safe. Thanks for joining this meme and thereby helping to create a safer online world for our children. If you want to copy the BITSS circle to include with your It’s all about Meme post, you are more than welcome. The circle graphic nicely shows everybody the five bitss required to keep our kids safe.




